Stop Overplaying Your Part: Protecting Your Energy and Reclaiming Your Worth

Today marks the start of a new week, the first full week of November, and with it comes a powerful reminder to take control of our lives, our boundaries, and our worth. With election season upon us and the future of our country in our hands, it’s a time of choice—choosing what we stand for and who we entrust to lead. This feeling of choosing who and what deserves our trust extends far beyond the voting booth. It’s a reminder that we, too, are the CEOs of our own lives, with the power to decide who gets our energy, our love, and our precious time.

I recently had a conversation with a friend about the nature of people and the ways we often hold others accountable for things they simply aren’t equipped to understand or meet. This led me to reflect on how many of us overextend ourselves, investing deeply in people who haven’t learned or shown interest in learning the language of our souls. Too often, we find ourselves disappointed or hurt by those we love, waiting for them to reach a level of care, empathy, or awareness that seems like second nature to us. But here’s the thing: if they wanted to meet us at our level, they would. If they valued us the way we wish they would, we’d feel it. And if they had the desire to make us feel safe, seen, and cherished, we’d already be living in that reality.

The hard truth is people will only understand us to the depth they’re willing or able. And when we continue to give, hoping someone will one day see our worth, we’re not only setting ourselves up for disappointment—we’re betraying our own boundaries. We’re sacrificing our peace by expecting people to understand our needs when they don’t, or worse, when they do and simply choose not to act. The truth is, they may never “get it,” and that’s not a reflection of your worth. It’s simply a sign that it’s time to stop overplaying your part in a role that no longer serves you.

Imagine being a boss holding an employee accountable for a task they were never trained to complete. You wouldn’t. So why do we continue to hold people accountable for meeting our emotional needs when they either lack the capacity or the desire to do so? Stop exhausting yourself trying to get someone to love you in the way you love them. Stop bending over backwards to show your worth to those who have shown they don’t want to—or can’t—match your effort. Your energy, your love, and your peace are sacred. It’s time to reclaim them.

Maybe they don’t know how to love you fully, and maybe that’s okay. You deserve someone who wants to learn the language of your soul without you having to teach it over and over again. You deserve a connection where feeding each other’s spirits is natural and effortless. Love shouldn’t be a constant uphill battle for validation or a struggle for reciprocity. True love and respect flow both ways, and if you’re the only one doing the work, then maybe it’s time to reassess.

If they wanted to, they would. Let that sink in. No amount of explaining, begging, or hoping will change someone who isn’t already motivated to meet you halfway. So, stop. Reclaim your power. Reclaim your peace. Let them go with love if they cannot offer you what you need. You deserve a love that shows up for you, that values you, that makes you feel like you’re finally home.

There is someone out there who will cherish the very parts of you that feel overlooked or dismissed right now. What you crave is real, and it exists. You’re not asking for too much—you’re simply asking it from someone who cannot or will not give it. Your value is not defined by anyone else’s inability to see it. Know your worth. Protect your energy. Trust that there is a love waiting for you that will meet you with open arms, eyes, and heart.

With love and light, let this be a gentle reminder: stop overplaying your part. You are the CEO of your life, and you have every right to choose people who elevate, respect, and love you. You are worth that much and more.